In conversations and class, when students are spending most of their time talking about someone that isn’t in the conversation or even room, chances are they are having trouble dealing with the relationship at hand, or with themselves. It might look like simple gossip – but it usually isn’t. Do you talk about other people all the time? Knock it off, and finish off our self-awareness trio of videos with the last part in your personal development plan.
Ever been disrespected or disrespectful? This video is for you! Unless you are a sociopath or terrible human being, chances are the disrespect happened because of a lack of self-awareness. Check out this week’s video to learn more!
Self-awareness isn’t just a woo woo adventure for hippies – it’s a skill! We don’t always take the time to check in with ourselves. Even with a mindfulness craze, we don’t take that time to stop, think, and note our emotions. Want to start? Or maybe, NEED to start? Watch this week’s video for your personal development plan in self-awareness!
Ever get in a conversation that keeps getting derailed? Wonder how to get things back on track? Start with our video tip this week about getting things back on track.
Catch us last week and finally figure out when you apologize? Now what? Check out our part two!
We’re back with another video tip for your Monday!
This week, we’re thinking about apologies – do you say ‘I’m sorry’ far too often? Tune in below for part one of ‘Stop Apologizing’.
by Engager Jen Glantz
The truth is, none of us are ever fully prepared for anything that we do. We can spend hours, days, even months practicing for something and still feel as though we aren’t ready. One of the greatest lessons learned in improv is that all you need to do, sometimes, to succeed and have fun, is just simply show-up.
While I agree that is a daring and very bold first step, the real trick to making it through something we might be scared, at first, to do, starts way before we enter the room to give a presentation, to take an improv class, or to just have a sticky conversation with say our boss. It starts with the self-talk, or pep talk, we give ourselves beforehand.
I remember a few years ago, I was about to walk into a job interview and felt so nervous that I could feel my body tell me, through jitters and stress-sweat, that it wasn’t feeling confident about what was going to happen. So I let my mind listen to my body and all of a sudden I told myself that I wasn’t good enough for the job I was interviewing and the person interviewing me would notice that instantly. I practically stuck my resume in the trash and walked out at that point, but before I could make that motion, they called me to begin. I didn’t do well on that interview and I didn’t get the job. Looking back now, it wasn’t because I didn’t have enough work experience or knowledge, it was because I didn’t walk-the-walk, or talk-the-self talk beforehand.
This happens a lot. We show up to an Improv class, an interview, or just to a new experience that scares us more than anything else, and we talk ourselves out of it. Our body language adapts and before we know it, we are setting ourselves up for failure.
After that memorable (for not a good reason) job interview was over, I promised myself that before I did anything I wasn’t feeling confident about again, that I would trick myself into thinking that I was. That I would arrive early, find a quiet space where I could be alone, and positive pep-talk myself into believing, really and truly believing, that what I was about to experience was something I was worthy of and something I would enjoy.
I use this method every single time it’s my turn to start an Improv scene or even teach an Improv class. I hope you’ll try it too.
Sometimes conversations just need to be ended – do you know when? Maybe you feel it in your gut, and haven’t been able to just get the confidence to walk away. Or maybe you feel like you’re just a rude and impatient person – guess what? You aren’t. Some conversations just weren’t meant to be.
We are so grateful to our newest hire, Magalie Yacinthe, who is keeping the Admin side of EE afloat while Erin Moncada is on maternity leave! Magalie is a kickass business owner who is heavily involved in her community, and also working on her first novel!
–What is your role at The Engaging Educator? Administrative Assistant.
–Where are you from and how did you make it to WInston Salem? Born in Nassau, Bahamas; raised in Miami, FL. Work & family brought me to Winston. The arts & entrepreneurial spirit kept me in Winston.
–When did you first start to love Improv? April 2016, which is when I met Jen and was fully exposed to the world of Improv.
–What is something you want to Improv(e) on? I want to improv(e) on my love life!
–Where is your favorite place in the city? Carolina’s Vineyards & Hops
–What’s a not-so-secret skill you have? Event planning & execution
“AaahhhOOOgah” makes me feel free… like I just want to jump up and down and run around
“Yes, and” to Wine, Brunch, Lazy Days!
We’re thinking about conversations in our video series – when they stall, what do you do? Start here!