We don’t always take the time to check in with ourselves. Even with a mindfulness craze, we don’t take that time to stop, think, and note our emotions. Want to start? Or maybe, NEED to start? Watch this week’s video for your personal development plan in self-awareness!
by Engager Jen Glantz
The truth is, none of us are ever fully prepared for anything that we do. We can spend hours, days, even months practicing for something and still feel as though we aren’t ready. One of the greatest lessons learned in improv is that all you need to do, sometimes, to succeed and have fun, is just simply show-up.
While I agree that is a daring and very bold first step, the real trick to making it through something we might be scared, at first, to do, starts way before we enter the room to give a presentation, to take an improv class, or to just have a sticky conversation with say our boss. It starts with the self-talk, or pep talk, we give ourselves beforehand.
I remember a few years ago, I was about to walk into a job interview and felt so nervous that I could feel my body tell me, through jitters and stress-sweat, that it wasn’t feeling confident about what was going to happen. So I let my mind listen to my body and all of a sudden I told myself that I wasn’t good enough for the job I was interviewing and the person interviewing me would notice that instantly. I practically stuck my resume in the trash and walked out at that point, but before I could make that motion, they called me to begin. I didn’t do well on that interview and I didn’t get the job. Looking back now, it wasn’t because I didn’t have enough work experience or knowledge, it was because I didn’t walk-the-walk, or talk-the-self talk beforehand.
This happens a lot. We show up to an Improv class, an interview, or just to a new experience that scares us more than anything else, and we talk ourselves out of it. Our body language adapts and before we know it, we are setting ourselves up for failure.
After that memorable (for not a good reason) job interview was over, I promised myself that before I did anything I wasn’t feeling confident about again, that I would trick myself into thinking that I was. That I would arrive early, find a quiet space where I could be alone, and positive pep-talk myself into believing, really and truly believing, that what I was about to experience was something I was worthy of and something I would enjoy.
I use this method every single time it’s my turn to start an Improv scene or even teach an Improv class. I hope you’ll try it too.
We’re back with another video tip – and this week, we’re starting a 4-part series on listening and conversation.
Check out how to start listening better. Hint: Stop thinking about dinner. =)
By Founder Jen Oleniczak Brown
Other applicants might lead you to believe…
I could do what other people will do when applying for this job…
Most companies want you to believe…
Some people asking for this scholarship would say…
Have you said or written one of these things in a job interview or maybe an application? Or even as an entrepreneur, have you brought out the faults of others while making the case for yourself?
There is incredible value in knowing your competition. You should know who you are up against — what you shouldn’t do is passively insult them in efforts to uplift yourself. You waste valuable time that you could be using to talk about how amazing (re: different) you really are!
So what should you do?
1. Know your competition. If you are applying for a job, getting a new client, interviewing — think what the ‘norm’ is. Make a list.
2. Know how you are different. On that same list, where do you go against the grain? Again, list.
3. When you’re talking about you in an interview, talk about these differences. That’s what will get you hired.
4. If you have to bring them up, do it sparingly, complimentary and ONCE.
With The Engaging Educator, people think our competition includes places like Second City and UCB. We are not Second City or UCB. When I’m talking to clients, I acknowledge that we are a group of improv-educators, not improvisers. We don’t put on a show (and won’t), and places like UCB and Second City are fantastic if they are looking for professional development with an additional element of performance. We plan a curriculum and customize communication skills training — we just also happen to use interactive improv. See? Acknowledged in a complimentary manner and focused towards US.
In an interview, the other candidates are literally nameless individuals, so why draw attention to them?
Good luck! Get the job because of how awesome you are, not because you insulted them.
Want to uplift others? Check out our TEDx on Yes, Anding the Shine Theory.