Why is My Inner Critic So Loud?New Year, New You, am I right?! The gyms are packed, our classes are jammed, and it will be like this until mid-March when folks start to get tired of their resolutions and start going back to their old habits.
That won’t be you this year, right?
It’s ok if it is. Resolutions are trash, intentions are amazing – but we’ll talk about that later.
I do want to make a pact with you right now – we’re in 2020 and making this happen. Let’s make 2020 the year we both work on our confidence, ok? I don’t know about you, but I’ve wasted way too much time doubting my abilities and myself. That nagging voice needs to go, and this is the year I’m going to be louder than that critic. I’m not going to kid myself and say “Hey! I’m going to get rid of the little voice that tells me that I can’t” but I am going to build up my positive self-talk so that voice stands out.
That’s just one of the ways YOU can up your confidence. Here are eight more that can get you and me on the same page for our 2020 agreement:
Ask your inner critic questions
– ask why you feel like you’re not good enough, and then ask for proof. Factual evidence that you’re a fraud. I’m willing to bet all the nachos there is little evidence.
Breathe and unclench your butt
– if you’re carrying tension, people you talk to are going to feel tense. This is a favorite of ours: clench your butt and say hello, now unclench your butt and say hello. Hear the difference?
Yes And yourself and your accomplishments
– Yes And is the magic improv phrase that helps the world get along. Kidding, but not? Think of a recent accomplishment – you responded to that stressful email. Now throw some Yes And magic at it: Yes And it took a lot of energy. Yes And it went better than expected. Yes And now it’s done.
– your posture matters. If you’re all scrunched up, you’re going to feel all scrunched up inside. Connect your feet with the floor, stand with your shoulders open versus tightly forward. If you’re sitting or standing, unclench that butt.
Celebrate all the wins
– answered two emails? WOO! Cleaned up some clutter? YES! Organized some receipts? YOU WIN. Don’t ignore the positive, even if it feels small. You nitpick the little bad things, why not the little good things?
– if you make a mistake, embrace it. Remember, failure is better than regret. Always.
What’s your theme song?
We play a game called Hot Spot with folks that can handle it – one person starts in the center and starts singing a song. Everyone joins in, and when someone else is ready, they tap the middle person, take their place and start a new song. The focus is often to be confident on the spot and support the people around you. The focus for you? Find that song that makes you feel invincible and belt it as loud as you can.
Remember you aren’t pizza
– not everyone is going to like you. Heck, there are people out there that don’t like pizza! Pizza isn’t mad. Pizza is PIZZA.
If you need help, hit me up. If I need help, I’ll let you know through this blog, social media or carrier pigeon! Promise.