Ever watch someone talk and you just trust them immediately? A little of that is a fancy hat trick called charisma, and a lot of that is all about the perceived idea of confidence. But why does confidence matter so much? Shouldn’t our work speak for itself? I wish! And I bet sometimes you do too. What’s not fun – when we see people get far based on their confidence alone.
That’s not you though – you’re talented and your work is amazing. But you might be lacking that confidence part of things and thinking WHY does this matter?
There are a few reasons that confidence matters – here are our favorites:
We Trust Confidence
We are often persuaded by trust. If you’re seen as trustworthy, chances are you’re telling the truth, being sincere and generally reliable. Trust is powerful! When folks are showing confidence, they are probably being real – and while some folks may not like the “realness” (you know what I’m talking about!) folks will like to be around someone that isn’t lying, being fake and constantly letting folks down.
Confidence builds trust!
We Feel Connected to Confident People
Research shows that our minds wander about 50% of the time. Yikes.
Think about the last person you talked to that you’d describe as confident – I am willing to bet all the nachos that that person paid attention to you – or whatever was happening – and did so without missing a beat.
Confident folks might be drifting all over the place – they don’t show it. When we see that connection that isn’t nervously scattered all over the place, we see them as someone that cares and someone that we can trust.
Confidence builds connections!
Confident People Listen and Help
Connecting to the last point, confident people listen to others. They also help people out – generally, they aren’t worried if someone else “looks better” – they don’t have that whole “pie of success is finite” thing. And they are respectful of boundaries and the associated “no” that might come along if they are helping out!
Confident people listen and help out.
These three things are reason enough to work on building your confidence – and simple to start! Be trustworthy, connect and listen. While I’m a big proponent of doing your own thing, these three are simple enough to work on, and will lead to finding yours!